United we stand, divided we fall

Even though you might have strong opinions which differ from your husband, when it comes to raising children, it's best to present a united front.  Of course, you each have different upbringings and experiences but now that you are parents, it's time to come up with a game plan that you both agree upon.  Save the "heated disagreements" for private.  Let your children see that you support each other and stand by what is said.  How can kids learn how to behave when their parents don't even know what they want for them?  You might have to revise the game plan occasionally as circumstances and needs change, but do it together, and in private.  It can be helpful to have a weekly discussion to address what is working and what isn't.