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Monday, May 14, 2012

Consequences - Part 2

Another kind of consequence for misbehavior is related consequences.  As the name implies, the consequence is related to the crime.  For example, if your daughter spills her milk, she cleans it up.  If your son breaks a window, he pays for it.  If he empties out all the toys in his room onto the floor, he gets to put them away.  It's a very logical process.  This method works pretty well if you are consistent and see that your child follows through. 

One of the worst things you can do when your child misbehaves is to bribe her.  What that's telling her is that if she misbehaves or throws a tantrum, she'll get a reward. You are essentially reinforcing the bad behavior and I don't think that's the message you want to send.

If you want to reward your child, why not watch for good behavior and reward that instead?  It's sad but true that the kids who get noticed are those who are making the most noise or who are getting into trouble. 


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