Look for the good

It's so easy to dwell on the negatives in our lives....the kid's misbehavior, the insensitive husband, the lack of sleep or money or time or all of the above,  the daily monotony, the job or lack of one,  health problems etc.  But, what good does it to focus and concentrate on the bad things or frustrating things of which we have little or no control?  There is also much good in our lives.  There is a saying that if you look for the bad you'll find it and also, if you look for the good you'll find it.  Which makes you happier?  Which one makes you feel better?  We each have a choice of what we want to focus on.

We all have difficulties and they need to be dealt with but let's not let the hard stuff consume us to the point that we miss the beautiful and sweet tender moments that give life meaning.  Sure, the kids misbehave but doesn't your heart melt when they put their arms around you and tell you that they love you?  Don't you just love to see them playing nicely and showing genuine concern for others?  Look for those moments.  My bet is that they're more frequent than we notice.   The same is true with our husbands.  Frustrating?  Absolutely!  Trying their best?  sigh...yes.

It's the beginning of a new week.  Why don't you try a little experiment and look for the good all around you...maybe even write it down.  Acknowledge your children and spouse when they do something nice or helpful or caring.  Everyone likes to be noticed in a good way.  See if it makes a difference in your family this week.  It can't hurt  :)