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Saturday, June 2, 2012

Stick to your principles!

One of my "followers" gave me a good topic to talk about today.  She said, "I had a son mad at me today because I told him I will not buy him an iTouch, nor will I help him earn one" and wanted my opinion.  OK, here goes...

Why don't you want him to have one?  Is he too young (he's 10)?  Is he irresponsible?  Are you concerned about the apps?   If it's an age thing, what age would be appropriate? 

Whatever your reason, tell him and be honest with him.  Keep it short and straightforward.  A 10 year old boy is old enough to understand your concerns.  He might not like your answer and he will certainly be unhappy about it but at least he knows why.  It's ok for kids not to get something they want, especially if you don't feel good about it.  But, remember to be consistent and not let him change your mind!

By the way, I agree with you.  :)


  1. I discussed just those topics with him...twice. The first time he wasn't listening. After about 20 minutes riding his bike I called him over and we talked about it again. That time, while he was not happy, he could understand and accept what I had to say. Thanks!!!

  2. Great job! And you both survived!

  3. The devil's advocate in me would ask the questioner in particular about a Sasha doll...what would the difference be between an iTouch arrangement and a similar arrangement made for someone to earn a Sasha doll.

  4. There's nothing wrong with working with a child to earn something they want IF it meets the parents approval. In fact, I think it helps children learn the value of money. I can think of several examples where that would be appropriate. In the instance you mentioned, the parents approved of the little girl's desire to have a particular expensive doll and worked with her to earn it. In the example in the original post, the parents did NOT want their son to have the iTouch, for whatever reason. Big difference! The main point I wanted to make is that as parents, we need to communicate with our children on a level they can understand and then be consistent.